How do you tell your friend that you do not like the person they love? How do you tell them that you do not trust their partner? How do you tell someone who finds love after searching for it a long time that settling is not the answer?
If there was any way I could say these things and not sound jealous, or envious, or like a child, I would do it. Thing is, half the stuff I say comes out in a sarcastic or taunting way. While my friends tolerate that in normal settings, would they believe me when I start saying the truth about them to them? I always fear that I will end up looking like the boy who cried wolf thrice. Having faced that once already, I do not want to experience it all over again.
The first time I said it, my friend agreed with what I was saying. She understood that I was coming from a good place when I said I didn't trust the other person. At least, the friend seemed to understand. The happiness in my heart lasted for a very short time. My friend and the person I did not trust were back together before I could blink. They are still going out and seem happy. Was I wrong?
Admittedly, I do not have a good matchmaking track record. Nor can I--or will I--predict which couple will last the longest. I am not good at that. The only thing I know for sure is people I can trust and those I cannot no matter how hard they try. I have a "people radar" and I am not wrong. Not till now. Sure, it may make me seem like a bitter, old hag, judging people and pronouncing whom I can trust and whom I cannot. But this radar has served me well. It has protected me from getting hurt. It has been my shield.
I wish communication was easier but it never will be. People will hear what they want to hear and again interpret it in the way they seem fit. Urgh! Why does this happen? Why can we not teach our friends, lovers, parents, and children to talk like androids and emote ONLY when needed. Being an android at times works for me. I know the person I am talking to will find it weird. And this is probably why I do not have "bestest of friends" or "BFFs!!" kind of people. I could not be my best friend no matter how hard I try.
Weird, or what??!!
If there was any way I could say these things and not sound jealous, or envious, or like a child, I would do it. Thing is, half the stuff I say comes out in a sarcastic or taunting way. While my friends tolerate that in normal settings, would they believe me when I start saying the truth about them to them? I always fear that I will end up looking like the boy who cried wolf thrice. Having faced that once already, I do not want to experience it all over again.
The first time I said it, my friend agreed with what I was saying. She understood that I was coming from a good place when I said I didn't trust the other person. At least, the friend seemed to understand. The happiness in my heart lasted for a very short time. My friend and the person I did not trust were back together before I could blink. They are still going out and seem happy. Was I wrong?
Admittedly, I do not have a good matchmaking track record. Nor can I--or will I--predict which couple will last the longest. I am not good at that. The only thing I know for sure is people I can trust and those I cannot no matter how hard they try. I have a "people radar" and I am not wrong. Not till now. Sure, it may make me seem like a bitter, old hag, judging people and pronouncing whom I can trust and whom I cannot. But this radar has served me well. It has protected me from getting hurt. It has been my shield.
I wish communication was easier but it never will be. People will hear what they want to hear and again interpret it in the way they seem fit. Urgh! Why does this happen? Why can we not teach our friends, lovers, parents, and children to talk like androids and emote ONLY when needed. Being an android at times works for me. I know the person I am talking to will find it weird. And this is probably why I do not have "bestest of friends" or "BFFs!!" kind of people. I could not be my best friend no matter how hard I try.
Weird, or what??!!
